"He is not my Spec." "She is not my Type "Bola is accommodating, Godly and decent. But, she has a K-leg." "Funmi has a lovely physical features. She is outspoken. But, she is overambitious. The babe no go submit." "Nkech is beautiful and a great cook. But, she is short." Well done ooo... Mr Creator of women.🙄 "Chinedu is a family-oriented man. He is caring but, can't construct a simple sentence in English." "Bayo is cute and God loving. He is even outspoken and exposed. But, he can't pray for 5hours at a stretch. He doesn't attend vigils and camp meetings. "Boye is my dream man. He has everything I desire in a man. But, he lacks a good dress sense and has a body odour." Well done ma. The Maker of perfect men.🙄 All these shouting of he is not my spec. She is not my type. Na eem make Mr Joshua remained single until he clocked 40years. Sis Nkechi never see her spec at 38years. Is it a sin to have a Spec? N...

Okay guys today we will be talking about gaslighting in relationships and marriages. Am sure many of you will be asking what do I mean by gaslighting in a relationship? Well, when I say gaslighting, I don't mean light produced by burning pipe illuminating gas or a lamp which operates by burning gas.  Gaslighting in a relationship/ marriage simply means; a form of sustained psychological manipulation that causes the victim to question or doubt their sanity, judgment, and memories. Since you now know what gaslighting is all about. The next question on your mind should be how do I know if I am in a gaslighted relationship or marriage with a gaslihter?  Here are few signs to help you know if you are being gaslighted in your relationship or not. # They make you question your perception of reality: # They persistently and blatantly lie to you: # They make you feel insecure by breaking you down: # They lie about saying something When you have Proof # They try to separate You from ...

Photo credit Google  BY MUTHOLIB ISA.A When she asks you...... 1. Can I call you anytime?She's simply means - Are you married? 2. Can you drive?- She is asking "Do you have a car? 3. Someone is asking for my hands in marriage.... - She is asking " When are you coming to see my parents. 4. I hope someone won't break my head ooo ?- she's asking "if you have a girlfriend. 5. Am using free mode - It means "can you send me data? 6. I want you to love me for who I am? - She doesn't love sharing. 7. Do you stay in your family house? - She's asking if you stay alone. 8. Can you date without sex? - she's want to know if you love sex too much . 9. Sweetheart, my girlfriend has a just been taken! - She wants to know your reaction about marriage. 10. I hate you joor.... - She just want you to tell her "I love you so much. 11. If she stops calling.... -She wants to know how serious you are. 12. My Normal visitor - She's in her period. 13. Why do ...

Stop wasting time with the wrong person, you call them but they don’t pick up, they saw your missed calls but they don’t call back, you text them but they never reply to any of your messages.. You always have time for them but they are ever so busy for you, you want to meet them and have some mature talks with them but they are full of excuses, you do everything possible to make them happy but they don’t appreciate your effort.. You introduced them to your friends and family but they have never introduced you to any important person in their life, you are so proud of them but they aren’t proud of you, you truly love them but you aren’t sure if they love you because they don’t show it.. You want to spend your future with them but they don’t like to talk about future plans, you are doing everything you can to make the relationship work but they do all their best to make it end. Then why are you with them? Why are you wasting your time and energy on them?  Honestly you deserve someone...

1) GIVE YOUR EX HOLY SPACE  2 People you should not be too careless around: The Ex that still loves You. The Ex you still love. To Avoid "I don't know how it happened?"  Tha ex that keeps sending you flirty messages, showing up where you are, when your partner is not around.  He or she will tell you different things. "I just want us to hang out, nothing will happen". Lori Iro "I won't bite, just a peck, for old times sake". Lori Iro Run oh.... Before your X becomes Y your Relationship or Marriage crashed. 2) AVOID "BESTIE" OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER OTHER THAN YOUR PARTNER Your Partner is alive, breathing and kicking, you're doing bestie with somebody else from the opposite gender, your Fiance/fiancee/Husband/Wife is not bestie material? You are looking for trouble. "He's just my Prayer Partner." Oshei oh, Prayer Panther.  "She's just my Confidant"  "We are just hangout buddies."  Egungun be kaiful.. ...

By Abraham Esther O. 1. Is the person teachable: Pay attention on how the person handles correction, does he or she gets angry when corrected,does he or she accepts correction. Marriage requires a lot of learning, unlearning and relearning. 2.How do they act when they are angry:Does the person becomes violent, insulting,rude when angry.Does anger controls the person that makes him or her not to be aware of what he or she is doing at that particular point on time. How a person control anger or how anger control a person determine if such person is ready for marriage or the person needs no help 3. When they get over excited over the opposite sometimes forgetting that you exist. Someone that is in a relationship but act like single and always deny to be in a relationship. 4.How they act when you can't give time: If there are moments you can answer the person's call because you are in a meeting,function or you can't reply immediately to their message,but you get back to them wh...

By Abraham Esther.O In our society today, a person in a relationship is afraid to run because of what people will say at the expense of his or her joy,peace,freedom,dreams,careers and  life. Being in a relationship is not a do or die afair, you don't go into a relationship because you pity the person, or because of what people will say, if as a man or a lady you experience any domestic abuse either verbal abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse or financial abus: Abuse is abuse, run fast once it takes away your peace or makes you feel lesser of a person, run fast.         Any man or woman that abuses his or her spouse is capable of taking the person's life. Such  a person could be suffering from mental, it could be frustrated, or jealous, or could be on hard drugs . As a lady, once a man hits you while in relationship he will surely hit you harder in marriage, so run fast before it lands you in death. Stay connected for more post on single connect relatio...